Tuesday, October 25, 2016

Finding Your Mom Tribe

Hey friends! Sorry for my lack of post yesterday. Friday we left for Charlotte to spend the weekend with my family and we didn't get back until yesterday afternoon. It was a great weekend. We had a surprise 40th birthday dinner for my sweet sister and all the cousins had the best time playing. This was the first time that I have been comfortable with Jack being able to go and do without needing constant supervision. It was SO nice not worrying about him going up and down the stairs and what he was getting in to.. I can't wait until that happens with Graham {in like 2 years!} It was definitely too short of a trip but very fun nonetheless!

Today I want to talk about something that I think every new mom {or even non mom!} has struggled with....finding your tribe. That group of women that you can turn to during the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. If you aren't a mom then its those girls that you can call up and go out for drinks or a night on the town with, the ones you gossip to about you boyfriend or husband. If you are a mom then it's the women that you can call up when your new baby won't stop crying and you are about to lose your mind if you don't get some sort of help. The ones that you can cry to on the phone because your baby won't stop spitting up and your toddler has had his fifth meltdown of the day and it's not even 10 am. {These all may or may not have happened to me!}

When I met my husband and moved to his small town I was automatically thrown into his group of friends. They were all sweet and welcoming and we had a great time. The problem was, they were all 7 years older than me and had been married for years and had children. I was newly married without children. I had a great time with them and loved their children but it was still hard because we were not always in the same stage of life. Fast forward 2 years later and I had a newborn baby boy. While I was dealing with diapers, formula and spit up they were getting their children ready for elementary school. While I have maintained great friendships with these girls and they were awesome to learn how to "be a mom" from it was hard at the same time. I often felt lonely.

This is when I decided I had to take matters into my own hands. I began reaching out to other moms who had babies Jacks age. I got involved in this local moms group and we had play dates and I met some great girls. I am still friends with them today and Jack's best friend Charlotte has been his best friend since they were 6 months old.

Preschool was a great way to meet other moms. Jack had a great mothers morning out class last year and I was able to form great relationships with these mamas. Our kids loved hanging out and we quickly went from seeing each other at drop off to spending weekends together for cookouts and play dates.

 I even met one of my closest friends in target! I shared that story awhile ago. Our boys are great friends and I love that I can call on her for anything!  I have formed great relationships with these girls and know that I can text them anytime with any question. We often bounce ideas off each other especially about sleep and eating habits...two things that are a big topic these days! Oh, and potty training! All the potty training questions!!

I then started this little blog of mine almost a year ago! I have met so many awesome mamas and non-mamas along the way! I have loved connecting with each of them and truly feel like I'm beginning to make some great friendships! It's funny how you can never have met someone but just through reading a blog and being instagram friends feel like you know so much!

I am writing this for any of you that may feel like you haven't found your tribe yet! Or those of you that have you know exactly what I"m talking about. It's so important to have women in your life that you can count on. Being a mom is hard, really hard! And as much as my sweet husband cares for me it's just not the same sometimes as talking to my girlfriends. So, find your tribe and love them hard!!

Thanks for sticking with me through all that. This post definitely lacked in pictures which doesn't happen often but it was something I've been wanting to share about!

I would love to hear about your tribe! What are some things that y'all love to do or talk about!

*Linking up with Our Pretty Little Girls


  1. Yes! I found my tribe while I was teaching. I connected with and made some pretty great friends. I got pregnant first, though they weren't too far behind. The difficult part though was that I became a SAHM and they didn't. I felt very disconnected. Although we are still great friends I've create a new group of friends, my SAHM/preschool mom friends. I can't even explain how thankful I am for those ladies too. And then my blog mom friends have been more of a support to me than I ever imagined possible. I was telling Drew over the weekend that I have a lot of different friends. Most of them don't intermingle, though they will if at a party or something. I'm okay with it because it means I'm a lucky lady with great friends.

  2. I agree that it's so important to find someone who is in the same stage of life as you! My husband's friends are all older and have children, too, and strangely enough, my best friend and I got engaged close together and married close together--something we never thought we would do. It's been nice to be in the same stage of life as her right now! I've also found really great girl friends at church!
    Sarah at MeetTheShaneyfelts

  3. Yesssss, you definitely have to have your tribe!!!! I don't know what I would do without my girls in Charlotte or my blog friends!! We all gotta stick together!

  4. I'm so bad at the whole tribe thing. I'm such a loner. The group of mom friends I have, I am the one that lives the furthest away. I'm a morning person, they are all night owls. I drink and swear, none of them do. I'm a bit of the black sheep. But I also know that if I'm in a tight spot or need to vent, they are there. #TuesdayTalk

  5. My tribe and I go waaaay back! I'm fortunate enough to have girlfriends back from high school that I'm still close with. We all got married around the same time and started having babies around the same time, so we've all stayed around the same stage of life, and that definitely makes a difference! It's so wonderful to always have someone to turn to!

  6. I love having my mom tribe from my blog. I need to work on my mom tribe back at home though. Either my friends have kids that are way older than mine or no kids yet. It is a struggle, but I do have my moms of multiples group that has been nothing short of amazing.It is so necessary to have them in our lives. Thank you for being a part of my mom tribe and being such an amazing friend. I am so glad to have gotten to know you over the last year!

  7. Thanks so much for this post! I just happened upon your blog from Classic Annie, and this post was such a great reminder for me. My husband and I just moved to a new place, and I'm still trying to find friends. This is such great encouragement to keep trying!

  8. I found a great tribe when my first was young. They helped me get through the early years of having kids. I am now searching for a blog tribe. I remember how good it felt to have people in your corner, helping you and listening to your triumphs and struggles. Starting something new is scary and it's always good to have people.

  9. I can so relate to this. When we moved here I was in the same position--like now those kids are 7/8. I'm just now getting into a group of mama's to hang with. So many mama's here work full time so it's hard to get together. It makes the days so much better when you have other mama's and friends to hang with.